Relationships shouldn’t be hard, but somehow they seem to be.
It’s the digital age where you know for a fact everyone has their phone with them for the most part of the day. It takes a second to drop a message to someone, so when all of a sudden the messages stop or you are being ignored then it just confirmation to you that you aren’t a priority.
Let it go.
When I really care about someone or I’ve invested in them, I tend to fight for the relationship so much that I forget who I am for a minute. The best thing you can do to move forward with or without them is to just let it go.
Be okay with them not being in your life and see the energy shift. They will come back. Most often or not they will come back.
If they don’t you will live. You are back to having a nice relationship with yourself or starting to realize it’s fun to be single. It is actually fun, once you’ve got over the routine, the message checkins, and having someone to plan things with.
Keep busy, read more and stay away from the phone. Go to bed early, wake up early. Go to the gym or for a run. See friends you haven’t seen for awhile. Clean your house, de-clutter (Marie Kondo on Netflix!). It’s all good for your soul.
Make a gratitude journal and include in your list for the day, month and also set goals.
To feel better with myself I do a makeup look, get dressed up and take photos. If I have money I organize a little trip away.
Here are some pictures from my trip to Lagos. I paid the waiter to take my photographs so it’s not my usual style but the hotel is pretty in itself. The hotel has been on my bucket list for awhile now -Blowfish Hotel in Lagos, Nigeria.
It really is something special.
Hotel: Blowfish, Lagos