I was involved with a married man who I never knew was married. That’s the worse kind of betrayal, when you think you know someone and believe their beautiful words they are telling you, only to have those promises and love come crashing down when you get that call from someone “why are you calling my husband”.
Eh. Heart sank then shattered in a million pieces on that call. But I think I took the high road with this, I could have sent her all our intimate conversations exposing him for the liar coward he is, or I just walked away. I explained you don’t need proof to make a decision on your family. Once I show you our past, you will never move on with your future. I may not have knowingly been a home wrecker but I’m sure as hell not starting now. And to myself “thank god I dodged a bullet”.
Anyway, things like this (and I believe it’s a small detour) make you realize the importance of loving yourself, be the best version of yourself, and never settle for anything less then you deserve.
Yeah yeah easier said then done right – but little detours like the married fool, and then big tragic detours like my Mum being sick – all kind of gives that shake up to our lives in way way or another.
Detours and shakeups gives us a second chance to refocus and find out those who matter the most in this world and that all starts with you.
Happiness is a difficult thing, you want it for yourself so badly but no one tells you that it’s easy, you just have to break it down.
Health – this is super important and only takes 21 days to get into a habit. I need to learn to follow my advice on this one. Gym and eating well, no drinking! Will come back to you in a few months if I’m on the right track.
Positive thinking – that means be around positivity and positive people, read books and watch YouTube videos (it’s free!), talk to friends that make you feel better, get up early and get moving.
Appearance – ok this is I think the most important thing. Get up and make an effort in what you look like, wear heels, put on your makeup, smooth your hair out and really take pride in your beautiful face. Take photos, make memories.
No one can take the above from you – life detours won’t change the situation – he still broke my heart and Mum still has a battle to fight. But I’m stronger from it all, and these are just the surface of what we are all faced with.
Start over my darling. It’s never too late.